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A recovery group for friends, relatives and
families of addicts.
We Meet To:
Learn Drug Abuse is an Illness
Share our Problems
Encourage the User to Seek Help
Improve the Family Attitude
Nar-Anon
Family Group
What is Nar-Anon?
Nar-Anon is a fellowship for families and
friends of addicts whose lives have been or are being affected by someone
else’s addiction. Are you sick and tired of being sick and tired? Have you
tried everything you can think of to change the addict and nothing seems to
work? Don’t give up. There is hope. If you would
like your life to be different, Nar-Anon can offer you a better way to live.
You will meet people at Nar-Anon meetings who understand your frustration.
How can Nar-Anon help me?
Nar-Anon is intended for parents, spouses, children,
siblings, and friends of addicts. Nar-Anon can provide new insights to help
with our attitudes, behaviors, and emotions. We can regain our own sanity and
well-being. We learn addiction is a family disease, and we need a recovery
program too. In Nar-Anon we learn we are not responsible for another person’s
addiction. Addicts need help and so do we. It can be a great relief to learn
more effective ways of coping while gaining hope and peace of mind.
What will I find at Nar-Anon?
You will find love, understanding, and hope in the Nar-Anon
Family Group. People in the group may be experiencing, in varying degrees, the
same hurt, anger, and anxieties you may be feeling. We find people in
Nar-Anon who understand what we are going through and are ready to share their
experience, strength, and hope to help us.
What can I expect if I keep going to meetings?
Nar-Anon Family Group meetings, with the twelve steps and
twelve traditions, offer a new way to live. You will learn how to change your own
thinking and attitude about the addict – about life. Experience, strength, and
hope shared at weekly meetings provide an ongoing opportunity to review and
reinforce the tools needed to bring peace and serenity into your life. This is
your program and your recovery. If you keep coming back ... if you work it ...
it will work.
Is my changed attitude going to make a difference?
Addiction is a family disease. It affects everyone who is
close to the addict. Most of us believe the addict is the one who needs to
change. It comes as a shock to hear we also need to change. It is time to look
at ourselves.
When
we discover Nar-Anon, we find
others with the same
feelings and problems. We learn we cannot control the addict or change him. We
have become so addicted to the addict that it is difficult to shift the focus
back to ourselves. By working the steps, following the traditions and using the
tools of the program, we begin, with the love and help of our Higher Power and
others, to change ourselves.
Nar-Anon is a fellowship for relatives and friends of
addicts who share their experience, strength, and hope. Addiction is considered
to be a family disease and family members are encouraged to attend Nar-Anon
meetings as soon as addiction is suspected.
-- from "Nar-Anon Offers Hope," copyright 2016 Nar-Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc. Used with permission.
Helping
Your role
as helper is not to DO Things for the person you are helping, but to BE
things, not to try to train and change his/her actions, but to train and
change your reactions. As you change your negatives to positives -- fear to
faith; contempt for what he does to respect for the potential within him/her;
rejection to release with love, not trying to make him/her fit a standard or
image, or expecting him to measure up to or down from that standard, but
giving him an opportunity to become himself/herself, to develop the best
within him/her, regardless of what that best may be; dominance to
encouragement, panic to serenity; false-hope, self-centered, to real hope,
God-centered; the rebellion of despair to the energy of personal revolution;
driving to guidance; and self-justification to self-understand -- as you
change in such ways as these, you change the world about you and all the
people in your world for the better.
-- Copyright 2016 Nar-Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc. Used with permission.
Do You Need Nar-Anon?
A Questionnaire for Parents, Spouses, Relatives and Friends.
Ask
yourself the following questions and answer them as honestly as you can.
- Do
you find yourself making excuses, lying or covering up for the addict in
your life? - Do
you have reason not to trust the addict in your life? - Is it
becoming difficult for you to believe his/her explanations? - Do
you lie awake worrying about the addict in your life? - Is
this person missing school often without your knowledge? - Is
this person missing work and the bills piling up? - Are
the savings mysteriously missing? - Are
the unanswered questions causing hostility and undermining your
relationship or marriage? - Are
you asking yourself. "What's Wrong?" and "Is it my
fault?" - Are
your suspicions turning you into a detective and are you afraid of what
you might find out? - Are
normal family disagreements becoming hostile and violent? - Are
you canceling social functions with vague excuses? - Are
you becoming increasingly reluctant to invite friends to your home? - Is
concern for your spouse, child or friend causing you headaches, a knotty
stomach and extreme anxiety? - Is
your spouse, child or friend easily irritated by minute matters? - Does
your whole life seem a nightmare? - Are
you unable to discuss the situation with friends or relatives because of
the embarrassment? - Are
your attempts at control frustrating? - Do
you over compensate and try not to make waves? - Do
you keep trying to make things better and nothing helps? - Is
the lifestyle of this person changing? - Do you ever think they may be
using drugs?
If you have answered yes to four
or more of these questions, Nar-Anon may be able to give you the answers you
are looking for.
-- Copyright 2016 Nar-Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc. Used with permission.