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A recovery group for friends, relatives and families of addicts.

We Meet To:
   Learn Drug Abuse is an Illness
   Share our Problems
   Encourage the User to Seek Help
   Improve the Family Attitude

Nar-Anon Family Group

What is Nar-Anon? Nar-Anon is a fellowship for families and friends of addicts whose lives have been or are being affected by someone else’s addiction.

Are you sick and tired of being sick and tired? Have you tried everything you can think of to change the addict and nothing seems to work? Don’t give up. There is hope. If you would like your life to be different, Nar-Anon can offer you a better way to live. You will meet people at Nar-Anon meetings who understand your frustration.

How can Nar-Anon help me?
Nar-Anon is intended for parents, spouses, children, siblings, and friends of addicts. Nar-Anon can provide new insights to help with our attitudes, behaviors, and emotions. We can regain our own sanity and well-being. We learn addiction is a family disease, and we need a recovery program too. In Nar-Anon we learn we are not responsible for another person’s addiction. Addicts need help and so do we. It can be a great relief to learn more effective ways of coping while gaining hope and peace of mind.

What will I find at Nar-Anon? You will find love, understanding, and hope in the Nar-Anon Family Group. People in the group may be experiencing, in varying degrees, the same hurt, anger, and anxieties you may be feeling. We find people in Nar-Anon who understand what we are going through and are ready to share their experience, strength, and hope to help us.

What can I expect if I keep going to meetings? Nar-Anon Family Group meetings, with the twelve steps and twelve traditions, offer a new way to live. You will learn how to change your own thinking and attitude about the addict – about life. Experience, strength, and hope shared at weekly meetings provide an ongoing opportunity to review and reinforce the tools needed to bring peace and serenity into your life. This is your program and your recovery. If you keep coming back ... if you work it ... it will work.

Is my changed attitude going to make a difference? Addiction is a family disease. It affects everyone who is close to the addict. Most of us believe the addict is the one who needs to change. It comes as a shock to hear we also need to change. It is time to look at ourselves.

When we discover Nar-Anon, we find others with the same feelings and problems. We learn we cannot control the addict or change him. We have become so addicted to the addict that it is difficult to shift the focus back to ourselves. By working the steps, following the traditions and using the tools of the program, we begin, with the love and help of our Higher Power and others, to change ourselves.

Nar-Anon is a fellowship for relatives and friends of addicts who share their experience, strength, and hope. Addiction is considered to be a family disease and family members are encouraged to attend Nar-Anon meetings as soon as addiction is suspected.

-- from "Nar-Anon Offers Hope," copyright 2016 Nar-Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc. Used with permission.


Helping

Your role as helper is not to DO Things for the person you are helping, but to BE things, not to try to train and change his/her actions, but to train and change your reactions. As you change your negatives to positives -- fear to faith; contempt for what he does to respect for the potential within him/her; rejection to release with love, not trying to make him/her fit a standard or image, or expecting him to measure up to or down from that standard, but giving him an opportunity to become himself/herself, to develop the best within him/her, regardless of what that best may be; dominance to encouragement, panic to serenity; false-hope, self-centered, to real hope, God-centered; the rebellion of despair to the energy of personal revolution; driving to guidance; and self-justification to self-understand -- as you change in such ways as these, you change the world about you and all the people in your world for the better. 

-- Copyright 2016 Nar-Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc. Used with permission.


Do You Need Nar-Anon?

A Questionnaire for Parents, Spouses, Relatives and Friends.

Ask yourself the following questions and answer them as honestly as you can.

- Do you find yourself making excuses, lying or covering up for the addict in your life?
- Do you have reason not to trust the addict in your life?
- Is it becoming difficult for you to believe his/her explanations?
- Do you lie awake worrying about the addict in your life?
- Is this person missing school often without your knowledge?
- Is this person missing work and the bills piling up?
- Are the savings mysteriously missing?
- Are the unanswered questions causing hostility and undermining your relationship
  or  marriage?
- Are you asking yourself. "What's Wrong?" and "Is it my fault?"
- Are your suspicions turning you into a detective and are you afraid of what you
  might find out?
- Are normal family disagreements becoming hostile and violent?
- Are you canceling social functions with vague excuses?
- Are you becoming increasingly reluctant to invite friends to your home?
- Is concern for your spouse, child or friend causing you headaches, a knotty stomach
  and extreme anxiety?
- Is your spouse, child or friend easily irritated by minute matters?
- Does your whole life seem a nightmare?
- Are you unable to discuss the situation with friends or relatives because of the
  embarrassment?
- Are your attempts at control frustrating?
- Do you over compensate and try not to make waves?
- Do you keep trying to make things better and nothing helps?
- Is the lifestyle of this person changing?
- Do you ever think they may be using drugs?

If you have answered yes to four or more of these questions, Nar-Anon may be able to give you the answers you are looking for.

-- Copyright 2016 Nar-Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc. Used with permission.